Yeah, the problem with pro-cheating arguments is that they treat sex like (to use your example) rock climbing. Perceiving their partner poorly is a necessary defense mechanism to deal with the fact that the cheater is breaching their partner's trust. Some of that might be the cause of the cheating, but I think more of it is the effect of the cheating on the cheater. You read stories all the time on the sub about cheaters treating their spouses poorly and how the relationships aren't healthy when the cheating is going on. It changes the way the cheater views their spouse, it changes how they interact, it changes the time they spend together.
Even if the partner being cheated on doesn't know about the cheating, it changes the dynamic of the relationship. The short (kind of unfulfilling) answer is - well, it just is. I understand the allure of the argument - one partner is doing something that makes them happy and, as long as they're responsible about it (wearing protection, taking care in choosing their partners, etc.), what's the harm? You wouldn't be upset if your partner made a new rock climbing buddy - why is a sex buddy any different? I really don't think it does help the marriage. If you or someone you know is involved in an abusive relationship or would like information on warning signs to watch out for, check out The Red Flag Campaign. No espousing rhetoric/linking to subs or content that is transphobic, anti-women/men, anti-LBGT+, that promote anti-vaxx or anti-science content, or contains harmful rhetoric against groups of people. No referencing hateful or abusive subs/individuals and content. No insults, no threats of violence, no encouraging violence, no harassment, no trolling, no advertising other subs, no spam. Remember, the goal is to help your fellow human. Derailing arguments, fights, and moral whataboutism is not allowed. message us) before communicating with users directly.Īll comments must be on topic and focus on the OP, in good faith. Press Requests must be routed through u/eganist (via modmail. If you're doing educational work, message us with your IRB number, a point of contact for us to verify your pending research, and the details of your research for consideration. Surveys, information requests, journalistic and academic research questions must be sent to modmail here and approved prior to posting.
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